Category Archives: Relationships

A Julicious Birthday

Birthdays, Facebook, Faith, Family, Google, Love, Obama, Relationships, Social Media, Twitter July 1, 2012 Leave a comment

Happy JULY 1st!!!

My birthday!!! Its the most exciting day of the year (DON’T DEBATE ME)…

I wanted to do something different. I always give back on for my birthday. Usually by doing some type of service or making a monetary donation. This year is different though. This year, I collected the mailing addresses of some very important and inspirational people I’ve met to send them a lil something. I have one 1 week to complete this task. I call it 34 for 34.

Choosing 34 people was HARD! Not because I couldn’t think of 34, but because I couldn’t stop crying, smiling and laughing as I created my list, and because there are a few who are no longer here who should be on the list. Their deaths make it even more imperative to reach out to the 34. You see, ya gotta learn to “give people their flowers while they’re still living and able to smell them.”  So I guess losing a few people has inspired me to share with several who have shaped my heart through their gift of friendship.

These folks are the ones who remind me of, “Our Deepest Fear…”, they inspire, motivate, straighten me and most importantly they are people I love and cherish!

On this birthday, I celebrate the gift of friendship!! I love ya… Now go show love to those you love as a gift in my honor. Let’em know you care while ya can!!

Oh and if you want to buy me something, donate $4 dollars to my “favorite campaign” this year Happy Birthday Jules DONATE, and then let me know you did. (insert cheesy smile)

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we’re liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” ~  Marianne Williamson

About Fathers… I’m Just Saying

Black Love, Dads, Esteem and Fitness, Facebook, Faith, Family, Family Traditions, Father's Day, Google, Habit, Holy Bible, Love, Love & Marriage, Relationships, Twitter June 19, 2011 Leave a comment

I’m Just Saying

If your daddy wasn’t around, or your child’s father isn’t around… Don’t dwell on that. For you have a father who has been with you since day one, even on the day the other guy walked out/away. He’s there daily loving you better than any man could ever love you. If we emulate and focus on his love, perhaps the disdain so many have towards “fathers” would decrease and relationships between father’s and children would increase… It really is easy, we just make it hard. #ijs

Recent Study About Smart Phones

Android, Blackberry, Commitment, Entertainment, Esteem and Fitness, Facebook, Fashion, Google, Habit, Humor, iPhone, Media, Palm, Relationships, Smartphones, Social Media, Twitter April 6, 2011 Leave a comment

SMARTPHONES: Everyone has one, or at least they should… shouldn’t they? Here’s a QUIZ which reveals what some folks really think about the most popular smartphones and their users. Identify the smartphones and then tell us which one you own and which one best describes you as an owner:

(a) is silly and are used by adults who are more childish than they are professional

(b) is arrogant and are used typically by people who are flashy or by those who are simply addicted to apples

(c) is slick and savvy similar to their users. They demand attention & ordinarily its deserved & earned and they are the perfect fit

(d) is similar to their fruit namesake, they are a healthy choice, not too pricey their users are generally modest & loyal who pride themselves in making sound, reliable investments.

Lord, let him love it too!

Black Love, Commitment, Esteem and Fitness, Faith, Family Traditions, Google, Health, Love & Basketball, Love & Marriage, NCAA March Madness, Prayer, Relationships, Romance, Valentines Day March 16, 2011 Comments: 2

Last month the big theme for me was LOVE. (it’s a daily theme actually) Nonetheless, I enjoyed sharing and hearing love stories from my subscribers, readers and friends. Now that March is underway, I’m just as excited about Basketball as I was with love last month!!

March Madness… Basketball, Spring and new beginnings! That’s what March means to me. I got to thinking about the two themes for February & March, and so it was only natural that I think of my favorite movie, LOVE & BASKETBALL!

So as I sat here pondering over the lines of this film and my own thoughts of Love & Basketball I decided to write this prayer to God…

THE LOVE & BASKETBALL PRAYER
Lord, let him love you
Lord, let him love to love me
Lord, let him love to watch Love & Basketball with me
Lord, let him love Basketball as much if not more than I do
Lord, let him not love the Lakers but if you insist that he does, at least make him a Tarheel fan like me
Lord, let him love “The Clutch” and recall the 2 three-pointers from 1995
Lord, let him love to go to see the game played live
Lord, let him teach our kids to shoot with both the left & right hands
Lord, let him enjoy high school basketball rivalries, state championships, March Madness and June
Lord, let him know that I’ll love him more than Basketball
Lord, let him know these things and more in Jesus Christ name I pray until next time…

AMEN!


Happy Valentines Day: From Greencastle with Love!

Black Love, Colleges, DePauw University, Facebook, Faith, Family, Family Traditions, Love & Marriage, Relationships, Romance, Social Media, Twitter, Valentines Day February 14, 2011 Leave a comment

College Sweethearts, Life Long Partners!!

Click here to read the story of their 20+ years…From Greencastle With Love!

Single Black Women…

Black Love, Commitment, Esteem and Fitness, Faith, Family, Family Traditions, Habit, Health, Love & Marriage, Relationships, Romance January 21, 2011 Leave a comment

Author Corey Barnes recently posed a statement on his Facebook page which inquired about why so many women are single, with African American women leading the way…

“Just looked at some interesting stats online, 40% Asian, 45% White, 51% Latino, and 70% African American women are single in today’s society. So the question today is, why are so many women still single?”

The post garnered over 100 comments and replies. I doubt that the statistics are accurate, however I do agree that there are too many single women.

Single in this context isn’t just as in not married, but this includes not involved in a relationship or merely dating… (many can’t even name the last time they’ve been courted)

After reading Barnes’ post that morning, I pondered over it throughout the day. That evening I responded…click here —> One View of Why Are So Many Black Women Single?

Still In Love…

Black Love, Commitment, Facebook, Faith, Family, Family Traditions, Love & Marriage, Relationships, Romance, Social Media, Twitter January 20, 2011 Leave a comment

Valentines Day is on it’s way. Yes, I know we haven’t even reached the “Male Holiday” aka Superbowl, so how on earth can I skip it and jump to Valentines…

This year in celebration of LOVERS & LOVE, for Valentines Day we’ll be featuring 14 couples from around the country. The series will begin on Feb 1st and end on the 14th. So if you’re interested in being included or you know of another special couple who deserves being featured, please email us at thesouthernsocialiteinc@gmail.com

Please send pictures and contact information. Pictures should be submitted as jpeg.

Celebrate Ya Love… Grown Folks Style

Black Love, California, Commitment, Entertainment, Family, Google, Love & Marriage, Opportunities, Radio, Relationships, Romance, Snoop Dogg, YouTube January 16, 2011 Leave a comment

The Hottest Song… YES THE HOTTEST!

It’s sweet, its sexy and its SNOOP! Yes, Snoop Dogg has outdone himself  with his newest release, NEW YEARS EVE

This is a celebration of love. What bigger celebration annually is it than New Year’s Eve! New Opportunities, New Love, New Commitment… (you get the point) Celebrate ya Love with The 2011 version of Here & Now (Yea’ I can forsee this at a few weddings). So here it is… GROWN FOLKS STYLE

 

**Thanks Banks**

 

A Radio Love Conflict

Black Love, Entertainment, Esteem and Fitness, Habit, Health, Love & Marriage, Media, Micheal Baisden, Radio, Relationships, Social Media, Steve Harvey December 6, 2010 1 Comment



5:30 a.m.

Daily my alarm clock blasts the sounds of the local R&B/Soul station here in the heart of Dixie. During the work week the sounds of The Steve Harvey Morning Show dominates the 450 sq. ft I call home.  The soundtrack on my ride into downtown is always The Steve Harvey Morning Show. Most folks know (or think that) Steve Harvey is a new age relationship guru/expert (or at least think that he thinks he is). Nonetheless, his show is filled with conversations about building relationships, recognizing negative relationships and how to overcome them, steps to maintaining relationships and of course marriage. Steve makes everything seem possible when it comes to love if certain basic steps are followed (of course you can get them at a nominal fee if you purchase his book(s)). Nonetheless, Steve is pretty positive about Black love, or love in general.

4:30 p.m.

The soundtrack of my commute from downtown to class is the total opposite to my morning trek. Enter Micheal Baisden. Rarely if ever do or will you hear stories of successful love stories being discussed by Baisden or on his show. There is the regular reference to his co-host George Wilburn and his marriage, but ordinarily that seems to be the extent of it.  I don’t think Baisden is against love or loving, but sometimes I wonder if the brother needs a hug!

Now don’t get me wrong, I realize that life isn’t peaches and cream but I do believe in love and success. I understand the points both brothers are making and that we need variations in conversations, but something about the extreme oppositeness of their tones doesn’t sit quite well with me.

Perhaps the contrast between the love/loving/lovers aspect of these two shows boils down to simply what they think their listeners expect of them. The only problem with that idea though is quite often they share the same exact listeners. *Socialite Shrug*

My question for my reading audience (all 250 of my subscribers) and sporadic readers, LOL…
What implications if any do we face as a community from these radio personalities conversations regarding love in the black community, is it healthy, confusing, irrelevant or all of the above?


47 Years Later… A Reflection: I Have A Dream

African American History, Dr. King, I Have A Dream, Obama, Race, Race Relations, Racism, Relationships August 28, 2010 Leave a comment

He was called the “MORAL LEADER” of our nation… Sure he had his shortcomings and indiscretions as we all do; however his legacy in this nation and the world created in him a place in history that can’t be destroyed only, expanded.

Today, August 28, 2010 two groups will settle upon this nation’s capital. Some will go to renew and remember the legacy of Dr. King’s Dream, while others will go to “rally” to restore honor.

The fabric of America has changed since Dr. King rendered this historic speech, however there is still a thread which intertwines throughout today’s fabric as was in the fabric of 1963 and that thread is not only divisive and destructive, it too has evolved. It has evolved into a bitterness which stings more than the pressure from Bull Connor’s water during the height of the Civil Rights movement of the 20th Century.

Today 47 years later, you should know that the Civil Rights movement didn’t end after desegregation. The movement has slowed some and has been disguised for nearly 50 years but it has not ended.

Just two years ago the world watched this nation make a historic paradigm shift when it elected the first African American President of the United States, Barack H. Obama. Since that historic Tuesday of 2008, we’ve been confronted and reminded that Dr. King’s Dream has yet to fully come into fruition. In fact, the election of President Obama has provided us with the reality that we may have come far from the days of Bull Connor or even Barry Goldwater, yet we have inherited the likes of Glenn Beck, Sarah Palin & Rush Limbaugh.

As I read over the text of Dr. King’s Dream speech, I’m reminded of my favorite part which seems to be more apporopriate today than ever before in my 32 year lifetime:

“It would be fatal for the nation to overlook the urgency of the moment and to underestimate the determination of the Negro. This sweltering summer of the Negro’s legitimate discontent will not pass until there is an invigorating autumn of freedom and equality. Nineteen sixty-three is not an end, but a beginning. Those who hope that the Negro needed to blow off steam and will now be content will have a rude awakening if the nation returns to business as usual. There will be neither rest nor tranquility in America until the Negro is granted his citizenship rights. The whirlwinds of revolt will continue to shake the foundations of our nation until the bright day of justice emerges.
But there is something that I must say to my people who stand on the warm threshold which leads into the palace of justice. In the process of gaining our rightful place we must not be guilty of wrongful deeds. Let us not seek to satisfy our thirst for freedom by drinking from the cup of bitterness and hatred.
We must forever conduct our struggle on the high plane of dignity and discipline. We must not allow our creative protest to degenerate into physical violence. Again and again we must rise to the majestic heights of meeting physical force with soul force. The marvelous new militancy which has engulfed the Negro community must not lead us to distrust of all white people, for many of our white brothers, as evidenced by their presence here today, have come to realize that their destiny is tied up with our destiny and their freedom is inextricably bound to our freedom. We cannot walk alone.
And as we walk, we must make the pledge that we shall march ahead. We cannot turn back. There are those who are asking the devotees of civil rights, “When will you be satisfied?” We can never be satisfied as long as our bodies, heavy with the fatigue of travel, cannot gain lodging in the motels of the highways and the hotels of the cities. We cannot be satisfied as long as the Negro’s basic mobility is from a smaller ghetto to a larger one. We can never be satisfied as long as a Negro in Mississippi cannot vote and a Negro in New York believes he has nothing for which to vote. No, no, we are not satisfied, and we will not be satisfied until justice rolls down like waters and righteousness like a mighty stream.
I am not unmindful that some of you have come here out of great trials and tribulations. Some of you have come fresh from narrow cells. Some of you have come from areas where your quest for freedom left you battered by the storms of persecution and staggered by the winds of police brutality. You have been the veterans of creative suffering. Continue to work with the faith that unearned suffering is redemptive.
Go back to Mississippi, go back to Alabama, go back to Georgia, go back to Louisiana, go back to the slums and ghettos of our northern cities, knowing that somehow this situation can and will be changed. Let us not wallow in the valley of despair.”
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